(Yes, I made a website. It's efficient.) I treat time as our only non-renewable resource. Leading engineering teams taught me how to protect it. Now I want to invest it in building a life with you.
How I process the world, prioritize value, and optimize for joy.
I've made the mistake of optimizing for the "perfect plan" before. Now I focus on what matters: showing up. Not the impressive gesture, but being present. Us, in all our messy, unoptimized glory.
I work hard to create space for absolute spontaneity. Late-night drives, bad karaoke, getting lost in a new city. Honestly the activity doesn't matter. The company does.
I handle the chaos. You get a partner who's calm, decisive, and always has a Plan B.
I realized I can't engineer connection, I have to risk it. Here is the unoptimized data.
I pick 1-4 songs for whatever I'm feeling and loop them 30 times each. No playlist. Just those songs, on repeat, until I've processed it.
I talk to myself. In the car, in the shower, on walks. Full conversations. Sometimes arguments I'll never have.
I dance. Badly. Embarrassingly. While cooking, while thinking, while existing. I want to take real dance classes but until then you get whatever chaotic energy my body decides to express. Fair warning.
I'm up between 8 and 10 with coffee, planning the week. You'll find me cleaning, organizing, resetting everything. But the best part? You chilling out in my t-shirt, stealing my coffee, derailing all my plans just by existing. The to-do list can wait.
I come home, change immediately, decompress for a bit with you, then it's back to startup work after dinner. But here's the thing: you're on the couch next to me. Your feet in my lap while I'm typing. A show you picked playing that I'm half-watching. Every twenty minutes I look over just to make sure you're still there.
I can actually cook well, I'm just extremely messy and my timing is chaos. Three burners going, using every pan in the kitchen. The food is good, but the process is... spirited. (Ordering in is still king though.)
Whether it's the Cover 2 defense or Python scripts, I love teaching. I appreciate quick learners and witty banter. If you can roast me back, you've already got my heart.
Relaxing Prep. Organization, laundry, resetting the board for the week. And if it's in season: Go Birds. (But the Ravens are cool too.)
My red flag is getting lost in work until 1 AM, brushing my teeth while still mentally wrapping up problems.
I will try to engineer a solution to your bad day when you just want to vent.
"He's very organized. Maybe too organized. Please distract him."
- Steve's Boss
"12/10 walker. good scratches. would adopt again."
- Former Roommate's Dog
"Takes a while to boot up in the morning, but runs high-performance tasks all day."
- Previous Colleague
High Aspirations. Deep Affection.
I can't engineer serendipity. So I'm trying something terrifying: I'm just asking. If this resonates, don't wait. I won't either.
If you see yourself in this, go back to Hinge or IG and message me:
I'll know you've read this far.
© 2025 STEVE FRANK. BUILT WITH INTENT.
POWERED BY HOPE.
(Built with AI in a few hours. Not because I'm desperate, but because I'm efficient. Making the most of my limited free time.)